The Shocking Ingratitude for Good Men

The narrative that all men are a threat has deadly consequences

On a recent podcast, I spilled my little secret that I, like most women, spent my early 20s in a state of liberal feminism. Nothing as extreme as you see today, of course, but the classic narratives were all there: Men were violent, women were victims. Men were mean, women were reactive. This was the unassailable mental model I had of inter-gender relations. It was how I was raised, how I was taught, and frankly, what I saw with my own eyes.

I was lucky enough to find the one awesome guy with a rockin bod before the other girls snatched him up. “I got the only good one, ladies! Pack it up!”

Silly, I know. Much of my ideological shift away from feminist nonsense came slowly, over many years. But my first and biggest step came shortly after I got married.

My new husband’s coworker was murdered by his wife.

Joe Stutzman was not good friends with my husband. Actually, they didn’t get along AT ALL. But when Joe’s wife asked several teen boys to stab him to death in his own damn house, it hit b…