The Sexes are Fighting (For all the Wrong Reasons)

Adjusting your expectations for what you really want

“You don’t want to be a wife. Actually, you say you would ‘rather be dead’ than do it again. So why are you on dating sites looking for a husband?”

So ended an awkward conversation with a (perhaps former) friend of mine who asked for my honest opinion.

Dating and marriage have become landmines of hostility, with each sex lobbing hateful generalities at the other.

• Women withhold sex as a weapon!

• Men are selfish and lazy!

• Women get fat the second you put a ring on it!

• Men are emotionally abusive!

• Women file for divorce over nothing!

• No, MEN abandon the family and the WOMAN is left filing the paperwork!!!!

And on and on it goes. I have been married nearly 15 years and, as a I detailed in an earlier post, married my husband after only a few months in a somewhat untraditional manner. As such, my single friends sometimes ask me for advice on how to find “The one.”

My friend didn’t like the advice I gave her, and maybe you won’t either. But I got some questions about what I said to make her not want t…