The Sexes are Fighting (For all the Wrong Reasons)
Adjusting your expectations for what you really want
“You don’t want to be a wife. Actually, you say you would ‘rather be dead’ than do it again. So why are you on dating sites looking for a husband?”
So ended an awkward conversation with a (perhaps former) friend of mine who asked for my honest opinion.
Dating and marriage have become landmines of hostility, with each sex lobbing hateful generalities at the other.
Women withhold sex as a weapon!
Men are selfish and lazy!
Women get fat the second you put a ring on it!
Men are emotionally abusive!
Women file for divorce over nothing!
No, MEN abandon the family and the WOMAN is left filing the paperwork!!!!
And on and on it goes. I have been married nearly 15 years and, as a I detailed in an earlier post, married my husband after only a few months in a somewhat untraditional manner. As such, my single friends sometimes ask me for advice on how to find “The one.”
The Ugly Ones
Usually, the last Friday of the month has been devoted to fiction. This month, by popular demand, we’ll be having a personal essay instead. The way I went about marriage was a cause of concern for my …
My friend didn’t like the advice I gave her, and maybe you won’t either. But I got some questions about what I said to make her not want t…